Who you are is not entirely determined by how you look, where you live, or who your parents were. There's that common statement that we are all products of our environment and there are various factors that make up who we are, yet I want to emphasize that who you are is a function of specific choices that you have made. You are where you are and what you are because of the dominating thoughts that occupy your mind.
Several years ago, a plastic surgeon friend of mine made a study of the people whom he had performed cosmetic surgery. These individuals had come to him asking for some change because they were unhappy with how they look.
As a surgeon, he gave them new noses, took away their wrinkles, or made some other significant changes in their appearance.
But he discovered something quite unexpected: Most of the people thought the surgery had been a failure because they were still dissatisfied with themselves.
The conclusion is obvious:We are what we are - not what we appear to be on the outside.
“No thought lives in your head rent-free."
You actually pay for your negative thoughts in money, energy, time, health and happiness.
If you want to move to a new level in your life quickly, begin by dividing your thoughts into two categories: empowering and disempowering. Observe them, and determine if they are supporting your happiness and success. Choose to entertain only the empowering thoughts, and refuse to focus on the disempowering ones. When a nonsupportive notion comes to the surface, replace it with a more supportive way of thinking. This process is called “power thinking.” If you practice it, your life will never be the same.
So, what is the difference between power thinking and positive thinking? The distinction is slight, but deep.
People use positive thinking to pretend that everything is rosy when they really believe it is not. With power thinking, though, we understand that something is neutral until we assign it meaning by creating a story.
With that said, we can now move on to applying this concept of "attitude".
The mind is a powerful tool, but it is also the greatest soap-opera scriptwriter in history. It creates powerful stories based on dramas or disasters that have never happened and likely never will.
As Mark Twain said, “I’ve had thousands of problems in my life, most of which never actually happened.”
It is important to remember that you are not your mind—you are much bigger and more powerful than your mind alone. By learning to train it, though, you can conquer your fear, expand your comfort zone and dramatically increase your wealth.
T. Harv Eker, New York Times Best-Seller Secrets of the Millionaire Mind